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Funny, honest and truthful, this book can’t do the washing but it might just save your marriage.

How did I become the ‘expert’ at changing a nappy? Jancee Dunn wondered.

This, combined with a lack of sleep, a suddenly unfair division of household chores and her husband’s new found passion for very long bike rides, meant that Jancee found it hard to look at her well-meaning, clever, funny husband playing with his i-phone without feeling a white-hot rage.

Like many expectant parents, they’d spent weeks researching the safest car seat but little time thinking about the titanic impact the baby would have on their marriage — and the way their marriage would affect their child.

Tired of having the same fights over and over, Dunn consults the latest relationship research, solicits the counsel of the renowned sex and couples' therapists, canvasses friends and parents, and even consults an FBI hostage negotiator on how to effectively contain an ‘explosive situation’.

No one said it would be easy, but it turns out that the man who got you into this position in the first place is the ally you didn’t know you had.


Clever, honest, and hilarious . . . Her warm and funny prose will restore hope for moms—and dads—everywhere. Her book should become a baby shower classic.

Publishers Weekly

Funny, honest and helpful.


This book is a very valuable addition to the whole huge transition to becoming parents. This book can help preserve the greatest gift you will ever give your baby: a loving relationship between the baby's parents.

John Gottman, Author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work

Jancee Dunn blends marital advice from real experts with her down to earth folksy wit in How Not To Hate Husband After Kids. If your husband has a better relationship with his phone than he does with his baby, you need to hit him with this book--and then ask him to read it.

Jen Mann, New York Times

Loads of useful, achievable advice.

The Pool

Jancee Dunn is honest, smart and funny. Her truthful writing style makes me feel understood and less alone with my issues in the world. If there's maybe one book to gift a mum-to-be I'd recommend How Not To Hate Husband After Kids.

London Mums

Equal parts romp and eye-opener, as [Dunn] tackles relationship self-help from every angle and through many experts and therapists. A few chapters in, one goop staffer had already photographed a dozen pages to send to her spouse.


Straightforward, humorous writing.

Washington Post

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Formats & editions

  • Trade Paperback


    April 18, 2017


    280 pages

    RRP $38.00

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  • Hardback


    April 15, 2017


    288 pages

    RRP $45.00

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