An unflinching exploration of how envy, approval-seeking, and fear of judgment keep women small—and how to break free through self-knowledge, ambition, and unapologetic action.
When a woman becomes visible, ambitious, and unapologetic about what she wants, the world whispers: Who does she think she is?
In this electrifying new book, Sunday Times best-selling author Florence Given flips that insult into fuel. Who Does She Think She Is? is a cultural reckoning for every woman who has learned that belonging depends on being good: being agreeable, palatable, grateful, selfless—and never wanting too much.
But what if the very things you’ve been taught to fear—other people’s envy, judgment, and disgust—aren’t evidence that you’re doing something wrong? What if they are an inevitable consequence of becoming visible?
Florence exposes the unspoken forces that keep women small: not just the patriarchy, but the ways women learn to police themselves and one another in exchange for belonging. She names the “sisterhood wound”—the comparison, envy, relational aggression, and subtle social punishments that teach women to fear standing out—and offers a radical new framework for understanding jealousy not as something shameful, but as information: a map pointing you towards your own buried desires.
Across three powerful parts—The Poison, The Alchemy, and The Embodiment—you’ll learn to:
Recognize the hidden rules that taught you to play small
Alchemize envy and resentment into clarity, desire, and momentum
Reclaim ambition, pleasure, and visibility without apology
Choose yourself even when it makes you less universally likable
Take up space with bold, embodied action towards the life you actually want
This book is not about becoming someone new. It’s about becoming fully yourself—even if it makes people uncomfortable.
It’s time to stop fearing the question “Who does she think she is?” and give people a reason to say it.
