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  • Published: 7 August 2025
  • ISBN: 9781529957372
  • Imprint: Vintage Digital
  • Format: Audio Download
  • RRP: $40.00

Are You Mad At Me?

Stop Focusing on What Others Think, Start Living for You

  • Meg Josephson




A psychologist and viral TikTok star decodes the four archetypes of people pleasing, revealing how to unlearn this trauma response and find true connection with yourself and others

Why do I always feel everyone’s mad at me? Am I the problem? How can I feel safe? If you’ve felt this way, you’re not alone. \"Fawning\" is a common yet misunderstood trauma response for chronic people-pleasers who fall under four categories: the peacekeeper, the performer, the caretaker, and the lone wolf. For the first time, this empowering guide equips each archetype with the specific tools they need to handle high-pressure scenarios and break patterns of self-sabotage, inspiring you to awaken your intuition and fall back in love with your soft power.

  • Published: 7 August 2025
  • ISBN: 9781529957372
  • Imprint: Vintage Digital
  • Format: Audio Download
  • RRP: $40.00

Praise for Are You Mad At Me?

I can count on one hand the books that have settled my nervous system within the first three pages of reading. It’s so rare to be able to say: I needed this book, me too, thank you.

Holly Whitaker, author of QUIT LIKE A WOMAN

Are You Mad at Me unlocks a secret door in the house of healing: understanding the fawn response. Honest, relatable, and totally binge-worthy, Josephson's work has the power to change your entire life. If you struggle with that screensaver type of anxiety that's always on - constantly worrying that you're doing something wrong or that people don't like you - this book will feel like coming up for air. Read it and get free.

Katherine Morgan Schafler, author of THE PERFECTIONIST'S GUIDE TO LOSING CONTROL

This book offers a cure for chronic people pleasing. If you’ve ever compromised your principles to gain another person’s approval, Meg Josephson is here to help with revealing insight and sage advice

Adam Grant, author of THINK AGAIN

Was Are You Mad at Me? written especially for me? It sure felt like it. For all the people-pleasers, peacekeepers, and fawners out there: Read this book now. My copy is already well-thumbed and heavily underlined--and, no, you can't borrow it! The book, brimming with wisdom and humanity, helped me change my relationship with myself by understanding the patterns of the past that I was still living out today. Thank you, Meg, for freeing me from so much I had buried. It is no overestimation to say that this book is a gamechanger

Susannah Cahalan, author of BRAIN ON FIRE

Hallelujah—at last, salvation for all of us who’ve ever agonized over an awkward text exchange, wondered if we embarrassed ourselves at a party, or become convinced that a friendship cooling meant we’d unwittingly committed some grave sin. Meg Josephson’s instant self-help classic is wise, actionable, and could change your life

Ada Calhoun, author of WHY WE CAN'T SLEEP

Meg Josephson has given the world a huge gift in Are You Mad at Me? For all of us who've spent our lives feeling like we were in trouble—with friends, bosses, spouses, children, everyone—this book offers explanations, comfort, and best of all, solutions. I'm grateful this book exists because I needed Josephson's gentle wisdom and empowering message now more than ever

Christie Tate, author of GROUP

Psychotherapist Josephson debuts with a cogent exploration of the least-known yet ‘arguably most common’ threat response: fawning…. Josephson’s lucid prose and smart mix of clinical expertise, personal disclosure, and pertinent case studies makes for a uniquely actionable resource. She also provides an insightful look at the cultural factors that influence fawning…Recovering people pleasers will find plenty to chew on

Publishers Weekly