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  • Published: 29 September 2020
  • ISBN: 9780143775225
  • Imprint: Penguin
  • Format: Hardback
  • Pages: 240
  • RRP: $30.00

Aroha

Maori wisdom for a contented life lived in harmony with our planet

Extract

13. 

Aroha mai, aroha atu.
 

Love received demands love returned.
 

Love others and love will come back to you.

I have made a commitment to record moments of deep connection and passionate joy, every day for the next twelve months.

This whakataukī speaks to me about receiving love and creating a deliberate daily practice to remind myself of the energy of this love every day. I realised I had retreated to the cave of work. I had ensured that all of my time was devoted to the many contributions I felt compelled to be involved with.

Maybe you can relate? I wanted to make sure I was responsive to the multiple needs of my extended family and community. And at a certain level this was my way of avoiding a deep level of connection with my own heart. This was diminishing my inner wellspring of aroha and I could begin to feel that I was running on empty.

I started recording memories of these precious moments. The sunshine dancing on the waves,
the purity of the white snow, the intense, inspiring eye contact of a friend, the warmth of a hug. I am now a collector of these moments. These are my own moments of noticing aroha all around me. Already this is proving an extraordinary exercise. So exquisitely nourishing. I am more and more aware of all the aspects of aroha surrounding me. Fuelling my passion for living, my joy, the importance of deep connection to feeding my soul. One of the unexpected consequences is that I feel such freedom. A weight lifted. I can feel this aroha effect in my lightness of being, in my ready smile. This is the effervescence of aroha as it spills out into all the nooks and crannies of my life where little shadows of loneliness and grief hid. I invite you to try this on for size. See how the aroha effect works for you.


Aroha Hinemoa Elder

The timeless wisdom of Maori proverbs - 52 traditional Maori sayings explained by respected Maori psychiatrist Dr Hinemoa Elder, showing us how we can live better lives, in harmony with the planet.

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