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Ask Me
  • Published: 26 March 2026
  • ISBN: 9781405993654
  • Imprint: Penguin eBooks
  • Format: EBook
  • Pages: 400
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Ask Me

A Memoir of Daring to Love Differently

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26 Mar 2026
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26 Mar 2026
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A beautiful, vibrant and surprising memoir about love, desire and marriage . . . one question at a time.

What if you dared to want more – from love, from life, from yourself?

Deepa Paul rises from her boyfriend’s bed in the early hours of dawn. She gets dressed, slips away with a kiss and cycles home where she is welcomed lovingly by her husband. There isn’t a glimmer of shame, deception or guilt, only the honesty and compassion needed to make this kind of life possible – even if it wasn’t always this easy.

Whose idea was it? What are the rules? Are you ever jealous? Deepa answers these questions openly and tenderly, as she seeks the truths that so many of us want to discover. Can I ask for what I want? Do I deserve it? Is it worth it?

Beautiful and bold, this is one woman’s story of becoming, of desire and of identity, and of asking the questions she deserved to find the answers to.
  • Published: 26 March 2026
  • ISBN: 9781405993654
  • Imprint: Penguin eBooks
  • Format: EBook
  • Pages: 400
Categories:

About the author

Deepa Paul

Deepa Paul is a Filipina-Indian author living in Amsterdam. Her writing explores the balance between being a mother, wife, girlfriend, daughter, adventurer, and herself – all at the same time.
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Praise for Ask Me

Deepa is the epitome of a woman living in her power. Ask Me provides a stunningly vulnerable and poetic glimpse into her most intimate spaces and through her journey to sexual liberation. If this book doesn’t change your perspective on relationships, nothing will

Gillian Anderson

A fascinating and big-hearted portrait of sex, intimacy and non-monogamy

Clover Stroud

A singingly honest, live-wire of a memoir. Reads like a long-overdue conversation with an old friend, will leave you thrilled and humming with possibility

Yael van der Wouden

A spectacular memoir written with verve and style

Nana Darkoa Sekyiamah

A generous-spirited, imaginative exploration of how to live life differently

Rebecca Wait, author of I’m Sorry You Feel That Way

A wonderfully honest and liberating memoir

Julia Samuel, author of This Too Shall Pass

A rare and wonderful thing. I feel changed and inspired by this book

Lucy-Anne Holmes

With candour and wit, Deepa invites readers into her personal journey. As a woman of colour, her perspective adds a needed voice to discussions of non-traditional relationships

Jessica Fern, author of POLYSECURE