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  • Published: 2 October 2025
  • ISBN: 9781529970388
  • Imprint: Vintage Digital
  • Format: Audio Download
  • RRP: $40.00
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Death of an Ordinary Man




An unflinching and profoundly moving account of caring until death, from Booker-Prize-longlisted Sarah Perry

Now I understand there are no ordinary lives – that every death is the end of a single event in time’s history: an event so improbable as to be miraculous, and irreplaceable in every particular.

Sarah Perry's father-in-law, David, died at home nine days after a cancer diagnosis and having previously been in the good health. The speed of his illness outstripped that of the NHS and social care, so the majority of nursing fell to Sarah and her husband. They witnessed what happens to the body and spirit, hour by hour, as it approaches death.

Death of an Ordinary Man is an unstinting account of death by cancer, a reportage into the daily experience of caring, an exploration of the structural conditions of dying in the UK, and most importantly a testament to David’s life, that of an ordinary man.

Unflinching and profoundly moving, Sarah Perry confronts the taboo surrounding death and shows us how to confront all of the terror and beauty that comes with the end of life - and how the saddest thing she has ever seen is also the best thing she's ever done.

  • Published: 2 October 2025
  • ISBN: 9781529970388
  • Imprint: Vintage Digital
  • Format: Audio Download
  • RRP: $40.00
Categories:

About the author

Sarah Perry

Sarah Perry is the internationally best-selling author of the novels Melmoth, The Essex Serpent and After Me Comes the Flood, and the non-fiction Essex Girls. She is a winner of the Waterstone’s Book of the Year Award and the British Book of the Year Award and has been nominated for major literary prizes including the Women’s Prize for Fiction, the Dylan Thomas Prize, the Folio Prize and the Costa Novel Award. She is a Fellow of the Royal Society of Literature and has a PhD in Creative Writing.

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Praise for Death of an Ordinary Man

I have not been moved like this by a book in a very long time. Death of an Ordinary Man is a masterful piece of writing. It gives dignity and weight to something as ordinary, as extraordinary, as death. By redeeming a common experience in all its intimacy, panic, disorientation and unexpected light, this book will be a lifeline for so many people. Those of us who have witnessed the death of a loved one will thank Sarah Perry for witnessing us in return.

Seán Hewitt

Sarah Perry’s Death of an Ordinary Man is an act of devotion, not only to her father-in-law but to the art of memoir. What makes this book incredibly special is its intimate attentiveness to dying – how it transforms the subject and their witnesses – in Perry’s intelligent, precise and radiant prose. To read this book is a privilege, a gift on the craft of dying. I know I’ll reach for it when I need both courage and consolation

Amy Key

What a luminously beautiful book, an instant classic. Every page is suffused with such honesty, tenderness and love. Few people have written about dying with such clear-eyed accuracy and immense humanity. Never flinching, never sugar-coating, Sarah has captured brilliantly how caring for someone you love in their final days can upend everything you thought you knew about living. Please read this book. It may very well change how you live

Rachel Clarke

Sarah Perry’s Death of an Ordinary Man is unflinching yet generous, a book that deals with grief and loss and death with acute honesty and without a trace of euphemism, with no retreat into sentimentality. It is scrupulous in its intent and in the writing and by the end I was left shaken, deeply moved. It is beautiful, a work of love and grace

Christos Tsiolkas

I have just sat and read Sarah's wonderful book, nodding and agreeing with so many tiny details that she has noticed and reflected on with a writer's eye and a loving daughter-in-law's heart. Just beautiful. I hope her luminous writing will console and encourage her readers, all of whom are mortals. This book is a slice of reality that comforts even as it confronts us. It is a book filled with love and human frailty, and I was spellbound

Kathryn Mannix

It’s very simple – a description of her father-in-law’s final illness and death – but it is beautiful and profound and completely gripping… The idea of a pain-free, comfortable birth or a pain-free, comfortable death is as misleading as the idea of a pain free, comfortable life. Death, even a good death, will be hard work at time and must be borne both by the person dying and by those around them. And that is natural and right, and something we learn by living a life

Mark Haddon

Haunting, mesmerising, fiercely intelligent and deeply humane, Sarah Perry's Death of an Ordinary Man is as gripping as any thriller, an exploration of the ways in which every ordinary life and death are unrepeatable, unfathomable, extraordinary

Naomi Alderman

[A] deeply affecting memoir… What grips in these pages, and drives the writing, is Perry’s tremendous sense of rhythm and pace

Daily Telegraph

As singular and stunning as I knew it would be. Through reading it, I felt I came to know David, and also that I came to know myself better. I could see the world differently afterwards and could feel a little more at peace with it. Only the very best books do that. Sarah is in a league of her own as a writer – I don't know how she does it.

Sara Collins