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Society's expectations of men and boys today are bad for all of us: this engaging, urgent and accessible book calls for change

'Excellent' Robert Webb, author of How Not To Be A Boy
'A valuable book for parents' Barbara Ellen, Observer

Why are boys three times more likely than girls to be suspended from school? And four times more likely to have behavioural difficulties? Why do men make up 75% of suicides and 95% of prisoners?

From babyhood through school and adolescence, to work and relationships, fatherhood and old-age, Man Up investigates the unique difficulties boys and men encounter today. Through fascinating research and real-life case studies, this book shows that change is possible and that there is room for men and boys to find greater fulfilment and happiness – to the benefit of everyone.


Interesting...vivid...a valuable book for parents. Man Up employs meticulous research to examine how boys and men are faring today… Strive[s] to illuminate - shining torches out into the modern world.

Barbara Ellen, Observer

Timely and necessary ... populated by thoughtful interviewees, many of whom are trying to change things


A powerful, thought-provoking call to arms

The Economist

Man Up provides a warning to all parents. If we don't like what we see out there in the society of grown men ... then we need to tackle seriously the culture at this young age. One of Asher’s biggest messages is that we need to show more “love, compassion and understanding for boys”

Sunday Herald

Asher…has done a great deal of research…and writes with exemplary clarity, even-handedness and sympathy.

Lewis Jones, Daily Telegraph

Fascinating and rather brilliant.


Asher makes a very good case.

William Leith, Financial Times

A rousing examination of why society’s demands on men and boys are bad for everybody.


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  • Paperback


    May 18, 2017


    304 pages

    RRP $30.00

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  • EBook


    May 5, 2016

    Vintage Digital

    304 pages

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