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  • Published: 1 August 2023
  • ISBN: 9781761045738
  • Imprint: Vintage Australia
  • Format: Trade Paperback
  • Pages: 288
  • RRP: $40.00

Secrets and Lies

A story of justice, perseverance and the life that comes after




I was a victim of child sexual abuse. It occurred more than forty years ago, when I was just thirteen years old. This is the story about what happened to me, how I kept it to myself, how I eventually fought back and how – after decades of living with the impact of the abuse – I decided one day to finally seek justice. It’s also about what happened next.

For forty years David Meagher harboured a secret. Then, in mid 2018, a text message from an old school friend forced him to confront his past and finally deal with it.

Secrets and Lies is a story about child sexual abuse. The culture that enabled it. How the perpetrator groomed his victims. How the abuse finally came to an end. And how, four decades after the crimes were committed, his victims embarked on a successful two-year journey to bring the offender to justice.

David Meagher delivers an intimate account of the lasting impact of child sexual abuse on survivors. From growing up gay in a censorious and very Catholic suburban environment to struggles with mental health and substance use, Secrets and Lies tells the full account of child sexual abuse. Meagher’s story, however, is ultimately one of hope and even a bit of humour. After all, it has a happy ending, or as near to one as is possible under the circumstances.

  • Published: 1 August 2023
  • ISBN: 9781761045738
  • Imprint: Vintage Australia
  • Format: Trade Paperback
  • Pages: 288
  • RRP: $40.00

About the author

David Meagher

David Meagher was the editor of The Australian newspaper’s monthly luxury lifestyle magazine, WISH, for 15 years. He has been a senior writer for the Australian Financial Review Magazine and has written for the Sydney Morning Herald, Vogue, Harper’s Bazaar, Marie Claire and the Sydney Star Observer. His books include Fashion Speak: Interviews with the world’s leading designers and The A to Z of Modern Manners: A guide to behaving well.

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Praise for Secrets and Lies

Grim and beautiful.

David Marr

This book both pierces and heals the soul. It is a triumph of truth and resilience.

Grace Tame

Told through a journalist's eye, this deeply personal tale unravels the painful power of secrets.

Hamish Macdonald

David Meagher has written a nuanced and beautifully candid account of what it means to seek justice. My heart broke for the boy and swelled with pride for the man.

Julia Leigh

Bravo, David Meagher, for creating a classic of Australian memoir. By turns harrowing and uplifting, it had made me in floods of tears one minute and punching the air in triumph the next. Everyone should read it - for the depths of its humanity, and its lessons in resilience.

Nikki Gemmell

This is very powerful writing of two men pursuing justice after sexual abuse by a teacher, four decades earlier - and putting the abuser in prison. Bravo, David Meagher, and your mate.

Peter FitzSimons