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  • Published: 7 January 2021
  • ISBN: 9781473569249
  • Imprint: Vintage Digital
  • Format: EBook
  • Pages: 256

Some Body to Love

A Family Story




What happens when life doesn't go to plan? From the author of Running Like a Girl and Leap In comes a remarkably personal memoir about gender, body-image and the re-configuring of her own family

‘I have accepted that I am not this.’ A hand gestured at the body I had lain next to each night for the last five years. ‘I have accepted that this body doesn’t represent who I am.’

With these words spoken by her husband D, and their baby son asleep in the next room, Alexandra Heminsley heard her world crack in two. The arrival of their baby – conceived after a brutal assault of IVF – had pushed Alex and D further apart, but there had always been something left unsaid. Now, at least, there was a kind of clarity: her husband was transitioning and their marriage was over.

Months earlier, as Alex’s own body underwent the transformation of pregnancy meaning she is no longer able to run or swim – as had become part of her identity – she is sexually assaulted by a man on a train. The ensuing court case, combined with the traumatic weight of the endless failures of IVF, pushed her further into a dissociated state – turning her into a seemingly unreliable narrator of her own reality.

Faced with D’s wish to transition, Alex fell to thinking about what it means to have a human body, to feel connected or severed from it, and how we might learn to accept our own without the crutch of Instagram or the tyranny of capitalism.

Some Body to Love is Alexandra Heminsley’s searingly honest memoir about losing her husband but keeping a friend whilst bringing a baby into the world. This is a family story, as well as being a vital, level-headed contribution to the incendiary debates on body-image and gender.

  • Published: 7 January 2021
  • ISBN: 9781473569249
  • Imprint: Vintage Digital
  • Format: EBook
  • Pages: 256

About the author

Alexandra Heminsley

Alexandra Heminsley is a journalist, broadcaster and ghostwriter. She lives in Brighton.

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Praise for Some Body to Love

The most moving and real account of a person’s relationship with their body I have ever read… A book with a wild, deep, joyous, tender love of people at its heart

Emma Jane Unsworth

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