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  • Published: 3 March 2014
  • ISBN: 9780099549031
  • Imprint: Vintage
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 240
  • RRP: $30.00

The Examined Life

How We Lose and Find Ourselves




Longlisted for the Guardian first book award, a Sunday Times bestseller and Radio 4 Book of the Week. 'Marvellous' (The Times), 'Excellent' (Guardian), 'Completely magical' (Mail on Sunday)

**SUNDAY TIMES BESTELLER**

This book is about learning to live.

Echoing Socrates' statement that the unexamined life not worth living, psychoanalyst Stephen Grosz draws on his twenty-five years of work and more than 50,000 hours of conversations to form a collection of beautifully rendered tales that illuminate the human experience.

These are stories about everyday lives: from a woman who finds herself daydreaming as she returns home from a business trip to a young man loses his wallet, to the more extreme examples: the patient who points an unloaded gun at a police officer and the compulsive liar who convinces his wife he's dying of cancer. The resulting journey will spark new ideas about who we are and why we do what we do.

'This moving book will make the reader think of Freud's keenly observed and literary-minded case studies...piercing chapters that read like a combination of Chekhov and Oliver Sacks' New York Times

'Grosz is a superb storyteller and tells lots of his patients' stories with sensitivity, but also with great acuity. You might keep thinking you recognise things about people you know' Evening Standard.

  • Published: 3 March 2014
  • ISBN: 9780099549031
  • Imprint: Vintage
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 240
  • RRP: $30.00

About the author

Stephen Grosz

Stephen Grosz was born in Indiana and educated at Berkeley and Oxford. For the past twenty-five years he has worked as a psychoanalyst. He teaches at the Institute of Psychoanalysis and in the Psychoanalytic Unit at University College London. His stories have appeared in the Financial Times Weekend Magazine and Granta. He lives in London.

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Praise for The Examined Life

Brilliant…. Grosz is a superb writer, yes, but it is the stories his patients tell him that really make you marvel. An elegant, jargon-free expedition into the secret business of our minds written with such wisdom and kindness… After reading [Grosz’s] absorbing accounts of his patients’ journeys you might feel that The Examined Life out to be given out free at birth

Melissa Katsoulis, The Times

[These] interpretations make fascinating reading, leave you marvelling at the ingenuity of the human subconscious. Grosz’s message is always affirming: if a person can work out what it is that’s driving them, it is possible to change

Mary Crockett, The Scotsman

Excellent… this book arrives like a box of chocolates. Thirty-one elegantly presented chapters which, when you bite into them, each reveals something sweet, rich or crunchy. Every one of these case histories bears repeating. All offer worthwhile insights.

Susanna Rustin, The Guardian

Grosz’s narrative is by turns edifying and moving...tempered by his engaging prose and moments of humour

Trisha Andres, The Financial Times

A rare insight into the life of the psychoanalyst… succeeds in making complex behavioural issues accessible for any reader

Kathryn Gaw, Irish Times

By turns edifying and moving… Grosz offers astute insights into the perplexities of everyday life

Trisha Andres, Financial Times

Enlightening…full of wisdom and insight

Sophie Hannah, Metro

Written with real elegance and a strong sense of structure… several chapters read like powerful short stories

Readers Digest

Elegantly structured and written… Grosz’s book is intensely readable

Jane Shilling, New Statesmen

Grosz is an able writer, engaging, frank and with many penetrating insights. His short, succinct chapters have both the tension and the satisfaction of miniature detective or mystery stories… a stimulating book

Michael Holroyd, Spectator

I couldn't put this down—I read about other people, but learned about myself at the same time. Real stories can be so much more fascinating than fictional ones, especially with Stephen Grosz. No preaching, no clichés—just wisdom.

Victoria Hislop

Grosz's vignettes are so brilliantly put together that they read like pieces of bare illuminating fiction... It is this combination of tenacious detective work, remarkable compassion and sheer, unending curiosity for the oddities of the human heart that makes these stories utterly captivating.

Sunday Times

A fine and moving book... The tact, patience and understatement, which are particular components of Grosz’s wisdom, remind the reader that this writer’s insights and empathy result from thousand of hours with patients. This book is not polemical literature… nor is it an academic work or a popular self-help book. It is a true literary work and a very modern one.

Jewish Chronicle

Engaging, frank, and with many penetrating insights. His short, succinct chapters have both the tension and the satisfaction of miniature detective or mystery stories… A stimulating book.

The Spectator

The suspense in each chapter is so expert that I had to double check that this wasn’t a work of fiction. Best of all, Grosz manages to give a jargon-free account of how psychoanalysis works

The Week

Intensely readable… As a reminder of the strangeness of human existence, the myriad ways we find of making ourselves unhappy and the perplexing resourcefulness of the unconscious mind, Grosz’s book is a worthwhile addition to the literature of the examined life.

New Statesman

Shaped like short stories, but true and moving in ways that fiction cannot be... Gradually accumulating through his book, Grosz provides, not a definition, but an enactment of the purpose of psychoanalysis, which is both modest and profound.

Alexander Linklater, Observer

Grosz writes lucidly and with sensitivity, treating his patients with respect. The cases are sprinkled with wise reflections... highly recommended

Independent

Modest and profound

Alexander Linklater, Observer

Five star review - an intelligent, human and deeply moving book… Grosz is listening for the unspoken and the gaps in between. His book celebrates change and the triumphs and tragedies of humanity

Jane Clinton, Sunday Express

Exquisitely written casebook

Vantage NW Magazine

Crystal-clear and completely magical...The Examined Life is a book full of troubles, but also of wonders: it shows people trapped by their own mysterious impulses, searching for an escape hatch, and often finding it

Craig Brown, Daily Mail

There are many sage lessons here, backed up by research where necessary…fascinating… Grosz writes lucidly and with sensitivity, treating his patients with respect. The cases are sprinkled with wise reflections…highly recommended

Leylai Sinai, Independent

Grosz’s vignettes are so brilliantly put together that they read like pieces of bare, illuminating fiction. . . utterly captivating

Robert Collins, Sunday Times

Marvellous… After reading [Grosz’s] absorbing accounts of his patients’ journeys you might feel that The Examined Life ought to be given out free at birth

Melissa Katsoulis, The Times

Crystal-clear and completely magical…The Examined Life is a book full of troubles, but also of wonders

Craig Brown, Mail on Sunday

Engaging, frank, and with many penetrating insights. His short, succinct chapters have both the tension and the satisfaction of miniature detective or mystery stories

Michael Holroyd, The Spectator

By turns edifying and moving…Grosz offers astute insights into the perplexities of everyday life

Trisha Andres, Financial Times

[Grosz's accounts] are shaped like short stories, but true and moving in ways that fiction cannot be […] distilled through long examination into finely crafted literary form…

Alexander Linklater, Observer

Grosz’s message is always affirming…it is possible to change

Mark Crockett, The Scotsman

Excellent… Every one of these case histories bears repeating. All offer worthwhile insights

Susanna Rustin, Guardian

Intelligent, human and deeply moving

Jane Clinton, Sunday Express

'Grosz] writes lucidly and with sensitivity… sprinkled with wise reflections… A gem… highly recommended

Leyla Sanai, The Independent

[A] fine and moving book… It is a true literary work and a very modern one…

Anthony Rudolf, Jewish Chronicle

That rarest of pleasures: a book I loved, and could recommend to almost anyone

John Self, Asylum blog

Beautifully unadorned writing... He paints a vivid portrait of his patients

Sunday Business Post