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  • Published: 25 June 2024
  • ISBN: 9781529176834
  • Imprint: Penguin
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 352
  • RRP: $26.00

Holding the Baby

Milk, sweat and tears from the frontline of motherhood




Part-memoir, part-manifesto, Holding the Baby is a wildly reassuring and radically ambitious book for any new parents who have felt dismissed, misunderstood or short-changed.

'My favourite person on the politics of parenthood' Pandora Sykes

'Exhilarating, infuriating, urgent and human' Daisy Buchanan

'A blazing, brilliant read ... compassionate, convincing, funny!' Amy Liptrot

'Honest, unflinching and necessary' Sara Pascoe

'Funny and brisk ... urgent and incisive' Rob Delaney

'A timely and important book' Clover Stroud

It's time to share the motherload.

A memoir culminating in a manifesto, Holding the Baby sets out to understand why we still treat early parenthood as an individual slog rather than a shared cultural responsibility. Tracing her own journey to the nadir of sleeplessness via social retreat and murderous rage, Frizzell draws on the latest research to explore:

- What effect does parenting have on your career?

- How can we make childcare affordable and fit for purpose?

- If parenting is so hard, why does anyone ever do it more than once?

Funny, reassuring and radically ambitious, Holding the Baby sheds light on the ways in which we fail new parents, and offers a rallying crying that we fight for a better alternative.

  • Published: 25 June 2024
  • ISBN: 9781529176834
  • Imprint: Penguin
  • Format: Paperback
  • Pages: 352
  • RRP: $26.00

About the author

Nell Frizzell

Nell Frizzell is a journalist, writer and Vogue columnist. She has written for The Guardian, VICE, The Telegraph, Elle, The Observer, Grazia, I-D among many others. Her first book The Panic Years is an exploration of bodies, babies and the big questions facing modern life.

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Praise for Holding the Baby

'My favourite person on the politics of parenthood. Read it and feel comforted, cheered and galvanized (even when your brain and body are melting).'

Pandora Sykes

'Exhilarating, infuriating, urgent and human ... an excellent journalistic investigation. I think this book is required reading for the child free, as it will help us to understand and support the choices of all parents.'

Daisy Buchanan

'A blazing, brilliant read, combining style and message to powerful effect ... compassionate, convincing and funny.'

Amy Liptrot

'Honest, unflinching and necessary - alleviates parental guilt and might even encourage you to forgive your own!'

Sara Pascoe

'Holding the Baby is the sanest, most gorgeous thing on capitalism's poisonous effect on parenthood I've ever read. I was hooting and hollering by the manifesto at the end. Because it's Nell Frizzell it's funny and brisk and also because it's Nell Frizzell it's urgent and incisive. It opens your eyes to a vastly healthier and utterly beautiful way to support babies (and people who used to be babies.) I'm grateful for this book.'

Rob Delaney

'Makes excellent, radical sense'

The Times

'I love Nell Frizzell's writing and I love her spirit. I devoured Holding the Baby, especially the way it combined the colour of a memoir with the intent of a manifesto. Nell has such an original, forceful and also, crucially, very funny take on parenthood in general and motherhood specifically. This is a timely and important book.'

Clover Stroud